Intelligent People Never Say These 16 Phrases

Brainy Dose Presents: Intelligent People Never Say These 16 Phrases Words are powerful and cannot be retrieved
once spoken. They also have a way of defining our personalities,
values and principles. Sometimes, verbal slip-ups occur, because
we say things without being aware of the subtle implications they carry. Understanding these implications requires
social awareness, which is the ability to pick up on the emotions and experiences of
other people. For this reason, intelligent people use words
sparingly, and also choose the words and phrases that best portray their message to give the
desired response. There are some words you shouldn’t
say in public or around certain people because you don’t know how they’ll be interpreted. These phrases have the ability to make you
look bad – even when the words are true. By avoiding them, you’ll improve your communication
skills instantly! But, before we get into this video, I just
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been watching our videos for a while but haven’t subscribed yet, please consider doing so. Alright, back to the video! Number 1 – It’s Not Fair Well, life isn’t fair… But, saying “it’s not fair” suggests
that you think life is supposed to be fair, which makes you look immature and naive. Perhaps what happened is NOT fair; it may
even be a terrible injustice. The thing to remember is that people surrounding
us are often unaware of the “incident,” and even if they are privy to the scenario,
proclaiming “It’s not fair” does absolutely nothing to solve the problem. As difficult as it may be, focus your attention
and efforts on resolving the issue. You’ll feel better about yourself, maintain
your dignity, and you may just solve the problem! Number 2 – I Told You So This phrase is bursting with conceit and superiority. It’s childish and immature. No intelligent, mature adult should utter
such words from their lips. You may have warned someone of consequences
of a certain action. Maybe they had it coming, whatever it is. Maybe they’re even beyond the point of constructive
criticism. Find some way to interact with someone who’s
made a bad decision that doesn’t involve contempt. Maybe they need some help that you can’t
provide. Consider your options, and act and speak intelligently. Number 3 – You Always / You Never No one always or never does anything. People don’t see themselves as one-dimensional,
so you shouldn’t attempt to define them as such. These phrases make people defensive and closed
off to your message, which is really a bad thing because you likely use these phrases
when you have something important to discuss. Instead, simply point out what the other person
did that’s a problem for you. Stick to the facts. If the frequency of the behavior is an issue,
you can always say, “It seems like you do this often.” Or “You do this often enough for me to notice.” Number 4 – This Is The Way It Has Always Been
Done Who says that in this modern age of rapid
change? Such a foolish thing to say. Technology-fueled change is happening so fast
that even a three-month-old process could be outdated. Saying “this is the way it’s always been
done” not only makes you sound lazy but archaic. The fact that you are used to a particular
process doesn’t mean that’s the only way in the world to get that thing done. An alternative way could lead to a much better
outcome. Number 5 – No Problem When someone asks you to do something or thanks
you for doing something, and you respond with “No problem,” you’re implying that his
or her request should have been a problem. This makes people feel as though they’ve
imposed their opinion or request on you. You can replace that phrase with something
better like “it was my pleasure,” or “I’ll be happy to take care of that.” It’s a subtle difference in language structure,
but the impact that it has on the recipient is beyond what you can imagine. Number 6 – Whatever You Want Phrases like: “It’s up to you” …. “I
don’t care” … or “whatever you want” do not encourage conversation. Think about it! When you ask for someone’s opinion, you
really want to know what they want! If you really are indifferent, it’s okay
to say that, but you might add “have you considered this option?” or give some input
without taking sides. Number 7 – This Will Only Take A Minute In reality, most of the time it times takes
more than 5 minutes, so why use unpredictable words to deceive people? Saying that something only takes a minute
undermines your skills and gives the impression that you rush through tasks. Feel free to say that it won’t take long,
but don’t make it sound as though the task can be completed any sooner than it actually
can be. Even if you are sure it will only take a minute
– value your worth. Number 8 – Good Luck This phrase is subtle, often well-intended,
and is certainly subjective to one’s own interpretation. It certainly isn’t the end of the world
if you wish someone good luck, but you can do better, because this phrase implies that
they need luck to succeed. Remember, luck is what happens when preparedness
meets opportunity – not something that happens by chance. So instead, say “I know you have what it
takes,” or “You’ve got this.” This is better than wishing someone luck,
because suggesting that they have the skills to succeed, provides a huge boost of confidence. Number 9 – He’s This / She’s That Here’s the thing… If you do not have anything good to say about
a person, then don’t say anything at all. It’s not nice to badmouth someone, even
when they are at fault. If your remark is accurate, everybody already
knows it, so there’s no need to point it out. This will just end up making you look like
an ass. Number 10 – Age & Gender Biased Statements For example: “You look great for your age,” or “For a woman, you’ve accomplished so
much.” As we all know, age and gender biases still
exist. Chances are that the person you’re speaking
to is well aware of such biases, and is offended by the mention of them. No qualifiers needed. Just compliment the person. Number 11 – This May Be A Silly Idea Using passive phrases like “I think” or
“this may be a silly idea,” instantly writes off your credibility. Anything that comes after phrases like these,
may not be given as much attention as they deserve. Intelligent people speak with confidence and
do not condemn their ideas in public. If you’re not confident in what you’re
saying, no one else will be either. If you are asked a question, but you aren’t
sure of the answer, just say “I don’t have that information right now, but I’ll
find out and get back to you.” Number 12 – I’ll Try Just like the word ‘think’, ‘try’
sounds tentative and suggests that you lack confidence in your ability to execute the
task. Take full ownership of your capabilities. If you’re asked to do something, either
commit to doing it or offer an alternative, but don’t say that you’ll try, because
it will sound as if you are unsure of the outcome. Why not say instead: “I will do my best.” Number 13 – It’s Not My Fault Shifting blame on other people is never a
good idea. If it’s not your fault, whose fault is it? Someone has to take responsibility and be
accountable. No matter how small the role you played was,
own up and share in the blame. The moment you start pointing fingers, people
start seeing you as someone who lacks accountability for his or her actions. Number 14 – With All Due Respect Before you would say this phrase… stop for
a second. Are the words that are about to come out of
your mouth truly influenced by a measure of respect for the recipient? If you can honestly answer “yes,” then
carry on. Just know this: how you frame your words;
your body language, and your voice intonation will quickly make it apparent whether or not
due respect is given. On the other hand, if this phrase is spoken
on ‘auto-pilot’ mode, in an attempt to ease into a discussion that has nothing to
do with respect, it’s best to avoid it. Number 15 – I Can’t If you find this phrase in your vocabulary,
kindly replace it with the positive “I can.” People don’t like to hear “I can’t”
because they think it means “I won’t.” Saying “I can’t” suggests that you’re
not willing to do what it takes to get the job done. If you really can’t do something because
you truly lack the necessary skills, you need to offer an alternative solution. Instead of saying what you can’t do, say
what you can do. For example, instead of saying “I can’t
stay late tonight,” say “I can come in early tomorrow.” Instead of saying “I can’t run those numbers,”
say “I don’t yet know how to run that type of analysis. Is there someone who can show me so that I
can do it on my own next time?” Number 16 – As I Said Before This phrase makes it sound as if you’re
insulted by having to repeat yourself, which is hard on the recipient – who is genuinely
interested in hearing your perspective. Getting insulted over having to repeat yourself
suggests that either you’re insecure, or you think you’re better than everyone else
(or both!). But few people who use this phrase, actually
feel this way. When you say it again, see what you can do
to convey the message in a clearer and more interesting manner. This way they’ll remember what you said. The bottom line is, intelligent people are
highly aware. Active listening is a sign of a high emotional
intelligence, and social awareness helps you avoid those awkward moments when something
comes out wrong and gets misunderstood. Saying the most appropriate words and phrases
will give you the opportunity to eliminate negativity from your vocabulary, and it will
boost your confidence level as well. Just take a few seconds before opening your
mouth to be aware of what you’re saying and to whom. It will help you build stronger relationships
and get a more positive response when dealing with others. So think smart, talk intelligent. As always, we want to know what you guys think! So let us know in the comments below. Do you agree with this list? Is there anything else you would add? If you enjoyed this video, give it a thumbs
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